MINDSET · A STANDARD FOR STARTING AGAIN

How to Stop Perfectionism and Start with a Minimum Action

How to preserve the connection instead of demanding completion

The Key Idea

This is not about lowering your goals. It is about separating your standard for starting from your standard for completion. Reconnect through one very small action, and once starting feels familiar and stable, gradually increase the amount of work you do.

Some days, trying to do something perfectly keeps us from starting at all. We feel that if we are going to write, the first draft should already be good. If we are going to exercise again, we should follow a proper routine. If we are going to journal, we should account for the entire day without missing anything. So we let the day pass without doing any of it.

In moments like these, “You lack willpower” may be the wrong explanation. The problem may not be that the goal itself is too ambitious, but that the threshold for starting has become too high. When we apply the standard meant for a finished result to the very first action, beginning becomes unbearably heavy.

Your standard for completion can remain high.
But your standard for starting must be small enough to get you moving again.

Table of Contents

1. High standards and perfectionism are not the same
2. How perfectionism makes it harder to begin
3. Separate the standard for starting from the standard for completion
4. How to design a minimum action
5. The Soontan Cheojeol 30-second journal
6. On days when you do not feel like doing anything
7. Once starting feels stable, gradually do more
8. When a minimum action is not enough

1. High Standards and Perfectionism Are Not the Same

Perfectionism is difficult to describe as a single personality trait. Researchers have identified multiple dimensions, including high personal standards, concern over mistakes, doubts about one’s actions, and self-oriented, other-oriented, and socially prescribed perfectionism. That is why saying “perfectionism is always bad” misses the point.

High standards can sometimes support growth. The problem is not the standards themselves, but internal rules such as these.^{1 2 3}

• If I make a mistake, it is over.
• If I cannot do it well from the beginning, it is meaningless.
• If I am only going to do it poorly, I would rather not do it at all.

Rules like these do not improve the quality of the result. They turn the first action into a test. When you judge the quality of your work before you have even begun, taking action can never feel light.

2. How Perfectionism Makes It Harder to Begin

The relationship between perfectionism and procrastination is not simple. Perfectionistic concerns may be associated with procrastination, while perfectionistic strivings can show a different pattern of association. We should not, therefore, conclude that perfectionism inevitably causes procrastination.

Some studies, however, have examined fear of failure and the overgeneralization of failure as important processes in the relationship between perfectionism and procrastination. When one small setback grows from “This task was difficult” into “I am incapable,” a person is more likely to avoid beginning than to try again.^{4 5}

How the barrier to starting rises

Excessively high standards
↓
A greater possibility of failure and a threat to self-evaluation
↓
Anxiety, shame, and self-criticism
↓
Avoidance and delayed initiation
↓
An even higher barrier the next time you try to begin

You do not have to abandon the goal to break out of this cycle. The key is not to eliminate the standard you hold for a finished result, but to stop applying that standard to the first action.

3. Separate the Standard for Starting from the Standard for Completion

What you need at this point is not to give up the goal. Nor do you need to discard your standard for completion. What you need is to separate the standard for starting from the standard for completion.

• The standard for writing a finished article should be different from the standard for reconnecting with the article today.
• The standard for exercising well should be different from the standard for getting your body moving again.
• The standard for reflecting on an entire day should be different from the standard for keeping your journaling habit from breaking.

Evidence on behavioral activation includes procedures for monitoring behavior, scheduling activities, and gradually resuming action by directly addressing avoidance. Translated into an everyday practice, this means “move in the smallest way you can, even when you feel low” rather than “wait until you feel better.”^{6 7 8}

How the evidence is being used here

This article does not present behavioral activation as a treatment prescription. It draws only on its underlying principles to explain how people can restart everyday action.

A minimum action is not an action designed to produce a major result. A minimum action is an action that preserves the connection. If today’s goal is to “finish an article,” the minimum action might be to “write one sentence.” If the goal is to “exercise for an hour,” it might be “do three squats” or “walk for two minutes.” If the goal is to “reflect on the entire day,” one line about something you did today is enough.

4. How to Design a Minimum Action

A minimum action needs to meet two conditions.

First, it must be so small that it is difficult to fail.

Second, it must leave room for the next action.

Adding an implementation intention makes the starting point more concrete. Plans that connect a specific situation with a specific action—“If ___ happens, then I will do only ___”—have been studied as a way to support goal attainment.⁹

If writing feels overwhelming, I will write just one sentence.
If I do not have the energy to exercise, I will walk for just two minutes.
If reflection feels overwhelming, I will write down just one thing I did today.

Minimum Action Design Table

Situation	Perfectionistic standard	Minimum-action standard	If-then statement	Connection record
Writing	One finished article	Write one sentence	If it feels overwhelming, I will write just one sentence.	Reconnected with the article today
Exercise	Exercise for one hour	Three squats or a two-minute walk	If I have no energy, I will walk for just two minutes.	Left evidence that I moved my body
Journaling habit	Reflect on the entire day	Write one line about what I did today	If reflection feels overwhelming, I will record just one thing I did.	Kept the journaling connection intact
Starting work	A perfect proposal	Write only the title and first item	If the proposal feels overwhelming, I will write only the title and first item.	Established a point of entry

Is my minimum action small enough?

• Can I begin right now?
• Could I still do it on a tired day?
• Can I clearly tell whether I completed it?
• After I finish, can I see what the next action would be?

5. The Soontan Cheojeol 30-Second Journal

The same principle applies to journaling. The point of the 30-second journal is not the number 30. Monitoring progress toward a goal can be understood as a strategy that supports self-regulation, but no distinctive effect has been established for the specific duration of 30 seconds.¹⁰

Thirty seconds is therefore not a scientifically validated threshold. It is a practical Soontan Cheojeol guideline for keeping the burden of journaling low. What matters is leaving a brief record of what you did and what you will reconnect with next.

30-Second Journal

My minimum action today: ____________________

How I felt before starting: __________________

How I felt afterward: _______________________

One thing I will reconnect with tomorrow: ______

Example Entry

My minimum action today: I created a few subheadings for the article I am working on.

How I felt before starting: Overwhelmed.

How I felt afterward: A little less weighed down.

One thing I will reconnect with tomorrow: Write an opening sentence for one subheading.

This is enough. A journal is not a tool for judging yourself. It is a marker that helps you return to the next action.

6. On Days When You Do Not Feel Like Doing Anything

On harder days, the standard needs to become even smaller. When you do not feel like doing anything, simply writing “Today is hard” can be a beginning. Then circle one action that still feels possible.

One action I can take today

Wash up  /  Drink water  /  Open a window  /  Write one line

Do not raise tomorrow’s standard above today’s. The minimum standard is not a performance standard. It is a standard for restarting.

Adapt the Standard to Your Situation

• For an office worker: Instead of producing a perfect report, write just three lines of the outline.
• For someone rebuilding a journaling habit: Instead of writing a long reflection, leave one line about an action you took today.
• For someone returning to exercise: Instead of completing the entire routine, leave one piece of evidence that you moved your body.
• For someone with little motivation: Instead of completing the whole plan, choose one action that is possible right now.

These four approaches have one thing in common: you are not giving up the goal. You are simply lowering today’s threshold for beginning. Even when you cannot finish, you can preserve the connection.

7. Once Starting Feels Stable, Gradually Do More

A minimum action is not a rule that says you should do the bare minimum forever. When beginning feels unfamiliar and heavy, it gives you a standard for restoring the connection to action. Once the action becomes familiar and you can repeat it without much resistance, you can begin increasing the workload little by little.

The key is not to leap back into your original plan on a sudden burst of motivation. Instead, expand by just one step without disrupting the stability you have built. When one sentence begins to feel natural, increase it to one paragraph. When a two-minute walk feels familiar, try five minutes. When a one-line entry feels stable, expand it to a three-line reflection.

Signs that you may be ready to do more

• You no longer hesitate as long as you once did before starting.
• You have repeated the minimum action several times without feeling burdened.
• You often finish the action with a little energy left to do more.
• The thought of increasing the workload does not trigger avoidance again.

Increasing one thing at a time is enough. Slightly increase only one element—time, frequency, or volume—and observe what happens over the next few days. If the higher standard creates pressure and avoidance again, that does not mean you have failed. Return temporarily to the previous minimum action, restore the connection, and then try expanding again in a smaller increment.

A minimum action is not where you stay. It is where you return.
Increase it when you are stable; reduce it again when it becomes too much.

8. When a Minimum Action Is Not Enough

Not every period of inactivity should be explained as perfectionism or a lack of willpower. If low motivation persists, depressed mood or loss of interest continues, symptoms worsen, or your ability to function in daily life declines, seek professional help.^{11 12}

A minimum action is not a universal formula that can solve every problem. It can, however, be a practical way to lower the threshold for reconnecting with action amid everyday avoidance and interruption.

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Epilogue: Today, Preserve the Connection Instead of Demanding Completion

The first action that overcomes perfectionism may not produce a perfect result. It may be so small that you feel embarrassed to show it to anyone and hesitate to call it an accomplishment at all.

Yet that small action does something important. It interrupts avoidance and leaves a path back to the next action.

A high goal may not be the problem.
The problem may be the belief that one mistake means it is over.

So today, before you struggle to finish, try preserving the connection: one sentence, three squats, one line in your journal, or a single title. Lowering the threshold for starting allows you to move again. Once starting becomes familiar, naturally expand the workload—to a paragraph, a five-minute walk, or a three-line reflection. Start small, then grow when the action becomes stable. That is the full process.

One sentence to write today

If ____________________ feels overwhelming,
I will do only ____________________.

Soontan Cheojeol Journal

Not a record for living perfectly,
but a record that helps you return when life knocks you off balance.

Plan. Act. Record. Reflect. Grow.

Evidence Consulted

1. Frost, Marten, Lahart, & Rosenblate, 1990 — Dimensions of perfectionism.
2. Hewitt & Flett, 1991 — Self-oriented, other-oriented, and socially prescribed perfectionism.
3. Stoeber & Otto, 2006 — The distinction between perfectionistic strivings and perfectionistic concerns.
4. Sirois, Molnar, & Hirsch, 2017 — The relationship between multidimensional perfectionism and procrastination.
5. Yosopov et al., 2024; Cho & Lee, 2022 — Mediating processes involving fear of failure and procrastination.
6. Uphoff et al., 2020 — Evidence for behavioral activation in the context of adult depression.
7. Cuijpers et al., 2007 — Activity scheduling and activity monitoring.
8. Kanter et al., 2010; Mazzucchelli et al., 2010 — Components of behavioral activation.
9. Gollwitzer & Sheeran, 2006 — Implementation intentions and goal attainment.
10. Harkin et al., 2016 — Monitoring goal progress and self-regulation.
11. WHO, 2025 — Information on depressive disorders and guidance on seeking help.
12. CDC, 2024 — Guidance on seeking professional help when symptoms worsen or functioning declines.

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perfectionism, minimum action, starting barrier, procrastination, implementation intentions, 30-second journal, gradual expansion, behavioral activation, journaling habit